It is that time again when we are all faced with finding the perfect gift for someone we love. With the economic turmoil and its associated fears coming to bear on all of our purchases, I offer this series of holiday gift ideas that have the potential to give back to your physical, emotional and mental well-being throughout the year in hours of intimate connection.
Adding useful and innovative tools and accessories to help you enjoy a reliable and vital sex life is actually like putting money in the bank. Researchers at Warwick University concluded that a healthy and sexually satisfying partnership is like having a nest egg of $100,000.
Buying gifts that remedy the primary issues that compromise most long-term sex lives is a good place to start. When a sex life is down, it is likely due to pain with intimacy, vaginal dryness and lack of libido. Often any one of these symptoms can generate the others. Recognizing and treating these symptoms with love and creativity instead of turning them into a negative relationship story is one of the most loving gifts you can give this holiday season.
Love oils actually change your brain chemistry while you kiss and the essential oil formulas travel swiftly through the nose to the limbic center of the brain. Love oils are natural aphrodisiacs that wake up your arousal mechanism through scent. Learn more about how your nose can wake up the sexiest organ in your body…your brain. Give all the lovers on your list our Good Clean Love Oil Gift Pack with enough diversity of scent for everyone to find something they love. To design your own personal love oil, just pick up a bottle of good, organic base oil such as jojoba, sweet almond or apricot kernel and then blend in a 1% dilution (about 10-15ml per 4oz of base oil) of your favorite essential oils.
Amazing personal lubricants can change everything when it comes to intimacy. Erase dryness issues and much of the pain of intimacy also goes away. Sometimes creating moist smooth gliding tissues allows libido to peak out around the corner. Many ingredients in the standard lube formulation are petrochemical based and can cause irritation, itching and burning with use. If you have any of these symptoms, check out the ingredients in your lubricants. There is no better place to invest in organics than for the most sensitive tissue in your body. In addition to Good Clean Love lubricant, try Firefly or Sylk- you will feel the difference.
Products to enhance libido are a billion dollar industry not even counting pharmaceutical solutions. I came across Maca products at one of the industry shows I attend and have been using these products daily ever since. Maca is a Peruvian herb that has been used since the time of the Incas, and is gaining widespread popularity among the green organic community for the wide range of hormonal balancing and libido enhancing properties that it conveys. Testimonials report revived libido, sexual abilities and stamina, making 60 feel like 16 again. Many women, soothed by the calming effect that Maca provides, claim than Maca can ease hormone irregularities, improve the functioning of the endocrine system, restore muscle tone, add moisture and give a youthful glow to the skin.
Adding innovation to intimacy is easier when you add supportive shapes to help you experiment with and hold new positions that most of us don’t have the ability to maintain ourselves. Liberator makes a variety of foam shapes, most popularly, the wedge and the ramp which you have probably seen in a movie or two. The added height and new angles that become available with the help of these foam pillows (which are available in a range of sexy colors from deep purple, deep blue and red) can help women achieve more satisfying penetration and also take the pressure off their partner’s knees and back.
The use of props for lovemaking can make all the difference in the world for couples who struggle with physical disability. Even the slowly aging with weakened muscle tone will feel younger with these product aids allowing us a more athletic approach to our intimate times. The company also sells other larger items that affirm the bedroom as the love den but even having the wedge or ramp waiting in its black silk covered pouch is a great reminder for love making. Another company that is worth looking into is Canadian based www.lovebumper.com which carries a similar line with rounder edges. I have not been lucky enough to secure a tryst on those yet. I will keep you posted though.
In the name of innovation, give one of our best selling series: 101 Nights of Great Romance and 101 Nights of Great Sex. Each page is a sealed gift that you give to each other with great ways to spice up your date nights and add a little romance into the tedium of sustaining busy lives. Some of my favorite writing directions come from Dr. Ian Kerner, who writes intelligent and translatable prose on the joys of really great oral sex. I also like that he is smart enough to realize the She Comes First and He Comes Next is the appropriate order of things for the best results for all.
Another book which is sure to revitalize both your sexual understanding and skill is Tammy Nelson’s Getting the Sex You Want. Applying Harville Hendrix’s Imago therapy communication techniques to build a sexual language really works in the exercises provided and I guarantee your understanding of sexual anatomy will be enhanced. A worthy reference guide no matter what your level of experience of sexual comfort.
If the person you love does not yet own a Lelo pleasure object, then consider spending your whole budget on this gift. It will become a trusted companion throughout the years. Our favorite model the Gigi, which is good for opening up a sexual dialogue and doing some anatomical research on the g-spot response, has 17 speeds and 5 remarkable patterns (truly change the pattern and you change the entire interaction.) This pleasure object is on the Gifts that keep giving special for the holidays. While they last, use the GTKG coupon code for a $30.00 discount on the Deep Rose Gigi. This product isn’t called a pleasure object for nothing. Packaged in an elegant black box with its own electric recharger (the charge lasts for 4 hours) and silk storage pouch, truly a gift that will return its cost to you in pleasure ten fold. New from Lelo are some male toys that are sure to liven up his holiday experience in ways that he hasn’t yet imagined. Check out the Bo and Bob on our site.
|Another amazing gift to consider, especially for the more adventurous is the NJoy. Made of surgical grade stainless steel, it is an heirloom pleasure piece that will last for decades to come. Although it doesn’t have a lot of electric options, it is surprising how a cold smooth piece of metal in between the sheets can heat up and even electrify sexual relations between long term consenting adults. Sometimes the tool helps you to imagine an interaction that you might not have considered before.|
As the owner of Good Clean Love, it is a slippery slope between education and marketing, so with a risk of compromising my unbiased integrity, I offer the resource that is Good Clean Love for healthy, natural and organic solutions for a sustainable love life. All the products mentioned in the review are available at our website www.goodcleanlove.com. Check out our new Secret Santa program where we will ship products anonymously or with a gift card anywhere in the world. Free shipping for orders over $50.00 available to Hitched Magazine readers -use the coupon code Green Holiday 08.