If life is a house

If life is a house then you might find yourself having a finite amount of emotional real estate.
 

Some of it gets taken up by friends and family, children, co-workers, and every so often just by people that simply pass through life on a day to day basis.

If you have a bad experience at the market, you can choose whether or not to let the experience drain you emotionally. It's a choice.

If life is a house then some people add value and some…not so much.
 

 


If life is a house then whomever you choose to let inside can help you or hurt you. They can help you make it a beautiful place to be, or they can help you make it ugly. You might wish some people could stay forever, while others start to smell like fish in record time.

Some people might leave you excessive messes to clean up, and when you go to listen to the stereo you let them borrow you realize they blew the speakers out. If this happens it might be time to escort them to the door, and you might think twice before inviting them back.


If life is a house then some people who knock on the door might be wolves in sheep clothing.


Some come in who'll be the life of the party, and everything seems so fun and great, but as times goes by they don't seem to get the message that there is a time to party and a time for real life and real responsibilities. They do stupid things, and make lots of drama where there is none. They talk a big game and when you try to talk to them about things you need from them to help clean up the place they get belligerent, and you feel like a buzz kill. Those guests sometimes store the bad feelings that got created till the next time, and it grows. One day, because you never put your foot down and said the party was over, they swing on the chandeliers and spill red wine on the new eco friendly modular white carpeting and bring other guests you would never even introduce to your own mother.


If life is a house and you spend your energy giving it to the guests who don't respect it's charm and warmth and hospitality, then you might eventually start to see things deteriorate. Before long you have an overgrown yard with old tires and a cast iron tub on your lawn, and the people you'd really love to get to know more stop coming by to visit.


You have to be responsible for how you build and maintain your own house… and a good lesson for everyone is that parties are only fun because they are over within a few hours and therefore special for a reason. In the meantime, if you are not at the party you'll have more time to spend doing other things that will add value in a different way to your life, i mean think about the beer gut and the hangover you can avoid. Now you can focus on inviting in people that make your house more beautiful and help you maintain it. They won't swing from your chandeliers, and overstep your boundaries all the time, nor will they leave you excessive messes that take days, sometimes even weeks to clean up. They won't bring in a wolf and call it a sheep, and they don't cause your brain to endlessly circle as it tries to create sense and order out of something that has none.

If life is a house and you find as you look through the bedrooms that some guests are lounging around making the place stink then you may want to consider the following: You invited them in, and you can invite them out.
 

If you've tried over and over to work with what you have to make it structurally sound and realize you might have built the whole thing on quicksand, then you might be better off to just bulldoze the whole thing down.
 

If life is a house, then renovation is always an option.

For more on Monica, visit EarthSavers.typepad.com

 

Related posts:

(Video) The start of an organic food garden
Wellness with @IvyJoeva: Stress and Your Health (Video)
Overwhelmed by Which Cosmetics are Safe and Which Aren’t? 5 Easy Steps for the Everyday Person
Tags: , ,

24 Comments

  • Saved as a favorite, I like your website!

  • Hello! I know this is somewhat off topic but I was wondering
    which blog platform are you using for this website?

    I’m getting sick and tired of WordPress because I’ve had issues with hackers and I’m looking
    at options for another platform. I would be awesome
    if you could point me in the direction of a good platform.

  • This is my first time pay a quick visit at here and i am in fact pleassant to read all at alone place.

  • Oh my goodness! Amazing article dude! Thanks,
    However I am encountering problems with your RSS. I
    don’t know the reason why I can’t subscribe to it.
    Is there anybody else getting similar RSS issues?

    Anyone that knows the solution can you kindly respond?

    Thanx!!

  • I am truly happy to read this website posts
    which carries lots of valuable facts, thanks for providing such data.

  • I used to be able to find good advice from your blog posts.

  • There’s definately a great deal to know about this topic.
    I like all the points you made.

  • Hi! I realize this is sort of off-topic but I had to ask. Does
    running a well-established blog like yours require a massive amount
    work? I am brand new to running a blog but I do write in my journal everyday.
    I’d like to start a blog so I will be able to share my personal experience and
    views online. Please let me know if you have any ideas or tips for
    new aspiring blog owners. Appreciate it!

  • It’s appropriate time to make some plans for the future and it is time
    to be happy. I have read this post and if I could I
    want to suggest you some interesting things or suggestions.
    Perhaps you can write next articles referring
    to this article. I want to read more things about it!

  • I like the valuable information you supply for your articles.
    I will bookmark your weblog and take a look at once more right
    here frequently. I’m moderately sure I will learn many new stuff right right here!

    Best of luck for the next!

  • Greetings! Very useful advice within this post!

    It is the little changes that produce the greatest changes.

    Many thanks for sharing!

  • Does your website have a contact page? I’m having a
    tough time locating it but, I’d like to send you an email.
    I’ve got some creative ideas for your blog you might be interested in hearing.

    Either way, great blog and I look forward to seeing
    it grow over time.

  • I absolutely love your blog and find almost all of your
    post’s to be exactly what I’m looking for. Do you offer guest writers to write content to suit your
    needs? I wouldn’t mind publishing a post or elaborating on a few of the subjects you
    write concerning here. Again, awesome website!

  • Hello, this weekend is nice designed for me, since this point in time i
    am reading this enormous educational article here at my residence.

  • Hey There. I found your weblog using msn. That is a very smartly written article.
    I will be sure to bookmark it and come back to learn extra
    of your helpful info. Thanks for the post. I’ll certainly return.

  • Pretty nice post. I simply stumbled upon your weblog and wished to mention that I have truly enjoyed surfing around your blog posts. After all I will be subscribing in your rss feed and I am hoping you write again very soon!|

  • It’s perfect time to make a few plans for the longer term and it’s time to be happy.
    I have learn this put up and if I may I wish to counsel you some interesting
    things or suggestions. Maybe you could write next articles regarding this article.
    I wish to learn even more issues about it!

  • Paragraph writing is also a excitement, if you be acquainted with after that you can write or else it is difficult to
    write.

  • We absolutely love your blog and find a lot of your post’s to
    be precisely what I’m looking for. Does one offer guest writers to write content in your case?
    I wouldn’t mind publishing a post or elaborating on most of the subjects you write in relation to here.

    Again, awesome web log!

  • Undeniably imagine that that you stated. Your favourite justification appeared to be at the internet the simplest factor to consider of.
    I say to you, I certainly get irked even as people consider concerns that they plainly do not
    recognize about. You controlled to hit the nail upon the top and defined out the entire thing with no need side effect , other folks could
    take a signal. Will likely be again to get more. Thanks

  • Have you ever thought about adding a little bit more than just your articles?
    I mean, what you say is fundamental and everything.
    But think of if you added some great visuals or video clips to give
    your posts more, “pop”! Your content is excellent but with pics and videos, this website could
    definitely be one of the greatest in its field. Terrific blog!

  • Hello! Do you use Twitter? I’d like to follow you if that would be
    okay. I’m definitely enjoying your blog and look forward to new updates.

  • Magnificent site. Plenty of useful info here. I’m sending it to some friends ans also sharing in delicious.

    And certainly, thanks for your sweat!